Pains Addiction

I watched the repeat of Oprah's last interview with Whitney Houston when she admitting to asking God for just one day of strength, chills ran through me and then I watched parts of the Tony Robbins event and one thing that resonated within my spirit is that we are addicted to pain; that it is the story we are willing to tell about our lives even before joy. Many of our painful relationships become our addiction, which is why we stay. We become consumed with trying to save people instead of accepting who they are. While we are busy trying to put on someone else's life jacket, we end up under water wondering why our lack of oxygen hurts. Even in the example on Tony Robbins the guest couldn't speak of her greatest joy, her children without the sadness surfacing first . This is fitting to my life, I talk about my love which is my daughter and I begin by wallowing in all that I couldn't do for her instead of boasting about her brilliance, her creativity and that she is a wonderful solid young woman that I raised!!! Accepting pain for what it is begins by identifying the hurt, sorrow and sadness and deciding what part of it you need to help you grow and then releasing it. Letting it go instead of letting it define you. It takes less energy to become addicted to happiness and it feels 100% better!!!! Tell the other side of your story for awhile and soon you will realize there is joy beyond the pain.