Why ask Why

This title use to be my personal license plate and at that time it was just my sarcastic youth on display, but now it's almost profound...as we grow in Christ we learn to accept why not me. The why becomes a statement instead of a question. Today I've spent baffled to say the least, clueless to understand what makes common sense to some just makes no sense at all, but if I had a penny for every thought of others I figured out...well I'd be writing this blog under a palm tree with an endless view of blue ocean. Instead I'm sitting in my jeep in the hot garage listening to the thunder as the rain begins. Today my pain hit a curb and I get to decide if I get back on the road of misery or take this right that God has presented to me. I understand that grief comes in stages, but right in this moment of sadness I've decided to round this corner. It begins with taking some sound advice from a reading yesterday on Oprah.com an article by Deepak Chopra a portion pasted below. I need to get off this road, not in an attempt to avoid, but to just get clear on all that being consumed with grief is doing to me. I posted a while back, that people survive burying their loved ones, I think I can get a grip on ending a bad marriage. I've come to accept just in this moment that neither of us are bad people, we were just bad together. So less about the question of why it failed, life happens and more about getting very CLEAR with the statement WHY which is found in me. I hope you enjoy the reading below, the entire selection is worth some time, the link is also posted on my page. ~~~~~ The 3 Questions To Ask Yourself When Things Go Wrong, by Deepak Chopra " You must clarify your inner confusion. You must get your bearings in a reasonable way. The first step is to consider—in consultation with those you trust—a course of action that begins with finding a fix. If the fix isn't there, ask why. Perhaps someone is blocking you or you lack the resources of money and time. Yet it is always worthwhile to search for a fix and commit yourself to finding one. Only when you feel satisfied that you've exhausted your realistic options should you begin to decide between putting up with the situation (using patience, not passivity) and walking away. The three alternatives are easier than they sound, because most people vacillate when things go bad. One day they wishfully hope for a fix and maybe take a few steps toward it. The next day they feel passive and victimized, so they put up with things as they are. The third day they are sick and tired of suffering and simply want to escape. The overall result is self-defeat. No solution can ever be found by running in three different directions. So clarify your situation and act on what you clearly see."