Communication

It's not always what you say, but how you say it and sometimes that you attempted to say anything at all. Communication comes in various forms via your body language or showing up as support, listening and of course talking. The goal is to be effective at it. Most people find themselves repeating the same things over and over because they never feel heard especially if there is no resolution at the end of the conversation. Many couples feel so misunderstood when they communicate that they turn to outside allies for validation. We've all heard the expressions..."I just want to be heard" or "it would be nice if you listened." Lack of communication is the source of great frustration and the break down of relationships on so many levels. It would be nice if we learned how to take turns speaking and listening the same way we learn to read and write and for advanced courses we could learn to mirror it back by restating what we just heard..."what I hear you saying" helps the speaker hear how the listener received the information and creates a dialogue for clearing up any misunderstandings right away. Let's work harder at having less one sided conversations and really become effective in all facets of communication. Remember you are not the only one with something to say.