It is impossible to live vicariously through another person, especially your children. They will only resent you for it in the end. Today we went shopping for homecoming; by now everyone knows shopping is not a favorite past time of mine, but this is a special occasion so I grin and bare. Well my baby looked like an angel in almost all the dresses she tried and it was fun, until my neighbor who was with us asked her about being on Homecoming Court. A mute subject for us because I know my daughter and that is so not who she is, even if she is popular enough to be crowned queen. She politely answers that she told her peers to take her off the ballot. Crushed I instantly became, out of pure selfishness of wanting to relive the moment I didn't have through her.
My daughter politely explained that she did not want the crown and she felt it best to move aside for a student she knew that really wanted it. This is so my child, never concerned with the popularity contest or designer names, please don't talk to her about the latest hip hop, because she prefers alternative bands. Don't ask her to follow the crowd or to repeat the latest fad. I even told her that we need to get her toe reset and she replied...Mom don't try to make me over, I'm fine just the way I am.
And while I cringed inside as the mental picture of her walking the football field in the royal court becomes a blur in my mind. I must admit how proud I am that she is so secure in being who she wants to be. That girl doesn't buckle under peer pressure even if it comes from me. Gotta love her, she is one special pretty lady!!!
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