Not A Test

Some young lady started this FB fanpage that's titled "A Relationship is Not a Test, so WHY Cheat?" I must agree. A Relationship is a decision not a game. Remember the stick character picture that circulated with the boy running with the girls heart in his hand and she was exclaiming stop that hurts. Well it's does because it beats, bleeds and breaks and its not a toy. I've said this a million times before, no one ever has to be hurt by a cheater; if that person would just accept that they are better off single. Cheating is about greed and selfishness. It is not about what's missing at home and if something is missing at home it would be you (the cheater) because you are to preoccupied to nourish what you already have and instead you exchange that for temporary pleasure. The other woman or man is supposed to make you feel better. They don't come home to you each night, they don't have to figure out the bills, car repairs or child's braces. They get to engage in your pretend life, where every moment is that first high; euphoria!!! They understand so well why you don't have a good spouse and they can make it all better. Stop and think when was the last time you gave your spouse that missing attention?


Truth is the moment you realize the grass is not greener and she trades in the come do me pumps for the granny gown, you understand that all the years, sweat and tears were not worth tearing down for a watered down version of your spouse and what makes it worse is you have to face the fact that she has no class because she was willing to cheat with your low down ass. And I don't discriminate because I know plenty of women with a man on the side. That makes you just as wrong. People just be fair let's stop grooming people for marriage and instead let's begin with honesty. Don't rip apart the one organ we all need our heart. Destroying lives, building insecurities and killing trust; when you could have declared I don't think I'm relationship material and I don't want to see you hurt if I can't keep my pants zip or skirt down. There's nothing wrong with starting a movement that supports staying single instead of being a cheater.