Healing...Alone is not lonely

So we have come to grips with the position we played in the life of the other party, now let's self evaluate why we accepted that role. If we are being honest we take responsibility for teaching others how to treat us. No it is not our fault if someone is a jerk, we can't change character flaws, but we can control how much of the negative treatment we accept. To little too late for this situation, but what an awesome teachable moment!!! No need to beat ourselves up, good people make bad decisions, but smart people learn from them and only accept great treatment going forward. Self esteem, self worth, self awareness all contribute to why we get comfortable in uncomfortable spaces. We stop loving us enough, so instead we trade alone moments for just ok moments convincing ourselves that we are lonely if we don't or as a wise women recently asked me, "is a piece of somebody better than nobody." NO, not at all because you give up so much of yourself overcompensating for all that they don't give, theoretically creating a relationship with yourself, because you are doing the work for both parties and that is exhausting and lonely. Being alone is exactly the best space to be right now. Take the time to take care of you, to love yourself again, to reconnect with old friends, create new hobbies and enjoy the quiet peace. Take the time to enjoy your own company that way you will never allow anyone to disrupt your happy space with their mess again.